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Dear Loyal Readers,

Good news! My blog has been picked up by PsychologyToday.com. You can continue to find my wit and wisdom about dating and relationships on their site at:

http://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/the-attraction-doctor

Thank you for your continued support.

Dr. Jeremy Nicholson

How Do You Get Your Own Way?

toffehoff, Flickr.com

It is common to have difficulty getting your needs met in dating and relationships. Over time though, we all develop strategies to get them taken care of by our partner. Maybe you pout? Maybe you bribe? Maybe you're a bit more creative?

I'm starting this post because I want you to share how you get the ones you love (or want to) to do things your way.

Leave a comment below (anonymously if you like). Share with us your tips, tricks, and strategies for getting your own way :-)

Like Yourself More

Mr. Thomas, Flickr.com

If you answer YES to any of these questions, this article is for you:

• Is second guessing yourself holding you back in love and relationships?
• Do you wonder whether you're "good enough" to get that date you want?
• Do you question what your partner sees in you sometimes and why they are with you?

If you said yes to any of those questions (or even thought about it for a second), then your life will greatly improve when you learn to like yourself just a little bit more. Fortunately, liking yourself more is easier than you might think. In fact, you're already on the right path, just caring enough about yourself and others to read this blog.

Read on and we'll discuss other ways to like yourself more...

"Mindless" Sex for Increased Pleasure

Crystal J. Silk, Blogspot.com

Have you ever been too "uptight" to enjoy sex? Maybe you were nervous with a new partner. Perhaps you were stressed out about work, fearful about a life event, or just not comfortable at the moment.

How about your partner(s)? Was there ever a time your partner was "thinking too much" to get aroused, excited, or "into it"? Maybe they didn't like the way their body looked on that particular day. Maybe you just had a fight. Perhaps it was a new relationship and they were not quite "comfortable" with you yet.

In any of these cases, being stuck "thinking" can lead to bad sex. When someone is thinking, they are generally not feeling. Not feeling (especially the lovely sensations of foreplay and sex) can kill all arousal, pleasure, and the possibility of orgasm.

Luckily, there are ways to "turn our mind off" and treat ourselves (and our partners) to a little "mindless" good sex...

Give Your Date A Cookie!

Joe Lencioni, shiftingpixel.com

How many times has this happened to you? You go out and meet someone, start having a good time, and 15 minutes into the conversation you realize that they are boring, lame, a real jerk, etc. Maybe that has even happened with your boyfriend, girlfriend, or spouse at some time. They seem to switch from pleasant to annoying before you even know what happened. The good behavior evaporates and you're left with something only Satan himself could love.

You know what else? It could be your fault...

Before you write the flaming comment, hear me out lol. Too often when things go sour on a date, or in a relationship, we're quick to blame someone else. It's easy to point out what they "did wrong". But, we seldom look at what we did to influence their behavior (or what we didn't do). And, despite how ineffective we might feel at times, we can have a very big impact on the behavior of our dates and partners.

Sometimes the difference between a good date (or partner) and a bad one is a little technique. All it takes is a "cookie"...